please put this shit on blast. his twitter name is @swerveodactyl and he’s being a complete asshole when called out on that tweet. His name is Beau Miller, he’s a junior at some high school in Washington state, I couldn’t figure out which but I’m sure you guys can help. Thank you so much!
An update: Beau Miller posted this on 4/10 at 4:09pm
If no little girl is too young to experience sexual predation from her peers (let’s be real this shit starts in pre-school if not sooner) no teenage boy is too young to be shamed/punished for bullying girls, consuming pornography, or committing sexual assault. Boys grow into men who think these norms of violence are acceptable at the expense of the girls blamed for their own victimhood. Girls have to grow up too quickly and boys never do.
And Elizabeth Smart knocks it so far out of the park, she put a dent in the ISS.
Just last week, a 7th grader with a curvy build came home upset about this. She had worn an outfit with a skirt and leggings, and in the morning, a teacher had said to her, “Cute outfit.” But then her homeroom teacher pulled her aside at the end of the day and said, “You know, another girl could get away with that outfit, but you should not be wearing that. I’m going to dress code you.” Juliet Bond and the child’s mom were discussing the incident, not certain if the message to the child was ‘you’re too sexy’ or ‘you’re too fat.’
The kids also report that the teachers have been discussing ‘appropriate body types for leggings and yoga pants and inappropriate body types for yoga pants and leggings.’
Bond says, “This is concerning because it is both slut shaming and fat shaming. If a girl is heavy or developed, the message is that she cannot wear certain clothes.” Neither is acceptable. We should not be sexualizing kids, nor should we be making them feel that they can wear leggings as long as they remain stick thin. Bond asks, “Why are the girls being pulled out of class to have assemblies on whether they are wearing the right clothes, while the boys remain in class, learning and studying?”
I don’t have a problem with a school having a dress code; in fact, I attended a school that didn’t allow jeans or shorts or shirts without collars, but I do have a problem when the dress code is discriminately based on gender and body type. There is a big difference between telling all students to dress respectfully and telling curvy girls to dress in a way that doesn’t distract boys."
Fifteen rape victims have formed martial arts movement and are prepared to confront abusers if no one listens to their complaints…A GROUP of women are fighting back against the sickening culture of rape which they say infects India. Fifteen determined females – all victims themselves – have trained in martial arts and are prepared to hand out rough justice if no one listens to their complaints. And the movement, called the Red Brigade, is growing rapidly following the gang rape and murder of medical student Jyoti Singh Pandey that horrified the world.In a nation where a woman is reportedly raped every 20 minutes, the group’s leader Usha Vishwakarma said: “We are fighting back – and the boot is now on the other foot.” Member Sufia Hashmi, 17, said: “We’ve caught a lot of men recently. I joined because men always used to pass comments on me and touch my body but now we beat them and they run.”Like the other members in the northern city of Lucknow, 25- year-old Usha has first-hand experience of the daily dangers women face in the huge nation – a teacher tried to rape her when she was 18. She said: “He grabbed me and tried to open my trousers. I kicked him in the crotch and ran.” Usha complained to staff but they told her to forget it and allowed her attacker to carry on teaching. She said: “Many parents tell girls to quit school so there will be no sexual violence. But we said no – this has to stop. We decided to form a group to fight for ourselves, not just complain.”
Rape isn’t about uncontrollable sexual desire. You only have to listen in on a Call of Duty game to see that. When that kid crows, “I raped you!”, he’s not calling the other guy sexy; he’s saying he defeated him, dominated him, humiliated him. That’s what rape is about, and that should scare you.
by Mia McKenzie
October 25, 2012
A couple of months ago, I started seeing these images going around on Facebook, of Frida Kahlo in various stages of nudity. They were being posted and re-posted by several people I like, awesome POCs whose admiration of Frida Kahlo I definitely share. But something about the images seemed off to me. I mean, where had all these new images come from, all of a sudden? I decided to click on the link, to actually follow it to a web page. And there I discovered the awful truth: that these were all photoshopped images of Frida Kahlo’s face on someone else’s body.
Why would anyone do this? I mean, okay, there are all kinds of photoshopped pics of celebrity heads attached to naked bodies that don’t belong to them. Apparently, the desire to see a woman with her clothes off is so powerful to some people that seeing her with someone else’s clothes off will suffice. I won’t lie. I don’t get it. But I guess some people are into that. Okay. But, right or wrong, I guess I don’t personally associate this phenomenon with the kind of folks who actually know who Frida Kahlo is. Further, I guess I expect that people who do know who she is, and who care enough to click and share a link about her, would respect her enough to not want to see her objectified, and in such extreme ways. But then I realized that the person behind all of this was a white man. And I was like, “Oh. Yeah. Figures.” When did the idea of respecting the image, body, or identity of women of color ever trump the need for white men (or any men, really) to do whatever they please? Brown and black women have been treated as beasts of the sexual burden of white men for hundreds of years. White men have regarded the bodies of dark women as plantation playgrounds, where they can rape and abuse and use as they please, for centuries. This is yet another way to do that. Without any rightful claim to it, this person has taken the idea of Frida Kahlo’s body, staked a claim to it, used it for what he desires, and called it art.
Is this art? Really? Is this “genius” the way it is described here? Or is it just the same old racist, misogynist bullshit?
Don’t answer. It’s a rhetorical question.
There is more at play here, too, than just racism and misogyny (as if those aren’t enough). The fact of the matter is that Frida Kahlo did not likely have a body that looked like any of the bodies being used for these photoshopped images. The real, authentic nude photographs of Frida that exist only show her naked from the front, and from the waist up. What we know about her life is that she was a victim in a terrible bus crash in her youth, and that the results of that crash included years of surgeries, full-body casts, and the inability to have children.
Kahlo was impaled by a steel handrail, which went into her hip and came out the other side. She suffered several serious injuries as a result, including fractures in her spine and pelvis.
Following the accident, Frida would go on to have more than thirty surgeries.
We’d have to be in some serious denial to think that these things did not affect the way Frida’s body looked. There were surely scars, surely much evidence of decades of pain and surgery and brokenness. To replace that broken, scarred body with smooth, un-flawed flesh, as in these photoshopped pics, is plainly able-ist. Further, it dishonors the life Frida Kahlo lived and the experiences she survived. Here was a woman, an artist, whose artistic expression had everything to do with her physical pain, everything to do with existing inside a body that was twisted and gnarled, a body that hurt every day. To erase that is to attempt to erase Frida herself.
At the rate these pics are being shared, if this keeps up, these images of Frida Kahlo, which are not images of Frida Kahlo at all, will replace the authentic images that we have of her in our hearts and minds. People who don’t know her story, who don’t realize how fake these images are, will take them as the truth when there is no truth in them, when they are blatant lies. Lies created by someone who shares neither her color, nor her gender, nor her pain.
Whenever I see one of these photos posted in my Facebook news feed, I write a comment to let the person who posted it know that it’s fake and why that’s fucked-up. Maybe if others join me in this practice, we can help save the real image of Frida from erasure.
Mia McKenzie is a writer and a smart, scrappy Philadelphian with a deep love of vegan pomegranate ice cream and fake fur collars. She is a black feminist and a freaking queer, facts that are often reflected in her writings, which have won her some awards and grants, such as the Astraea Foundation’s Writers Fund Award and the Leeway Foundation’s Transformation Award. She has a novel debuting in the fall and has a short story forthcoming in The Kenyon Review. Her work has been published at Jezebel.com, and recommended by The Root, Colorlines, Feministing, Angry Asian Man, and Crunk Feminist Collective. She is a nerd, and the creator of Black Girl Dangerous, a revolutionary blog.
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I cannot express how unbelievably unacceptable it was for someone to do this. Appropriation under the guise of “art” is still appropriation.
ugh I keep seeing articles on Divergent being congratulated for supporting consent and depicting a healthy YA relationship on my dash
I mean, that’s GREAT if that’s the direction the film’s gone in, but fourtris is really icky sometimes and you can’t write an article on sex and consent in Divergent without mentioning the bad stuff too like tobias’ violence, “i want to push you until you break”, that horrible towel scene and the so-vague-it’s-difficult-to-tell-whether-or-not-it-actually-happened sex scene in Allegiant. If those parts have been cut out of the movie GOOD. But still, Divergent as a whole is not the best example of sex positivity or consensual, healthy relationships and I think non-readers should be aware of that, or they might be in for a nasty surprise if they do decide to pick up the books.
I wonder why so many men in the nerdfighter community struggle with the concept of consent?
It’s almost as if they think of these young women as “underutilized romantic resources.”
Firstly, I actually want to address that last part. Your mom may not be agreeing with the rapists, per-say, but she is allowing for this rape culture we live in to remain the status-quo. She is making excuses for it, for them - even simply by questioning he victim. That’s something she needs to understand.
Statements like, "I wouldn’t walk down the street in my underpants and not expect something to happen…" - Ask her to finish that idea. What exactly does she expect to happen. Sure, walking down the street in your underwear doesn’t make much sense, but what about that screams consent to her? Now how many more articles of clothing take away that consent? How many articles of clothing must be added before her outfit “properly conveys” You may not assault me?
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: Being drunk out of your mind, drinking an irresponsible amount of alcohol means you may forget where your keys are, it means you might fall and scrape up your leg, it means that you might get vomit on you - those things are the result of drinking too much. Rape is not.
Yesterday I was not even remotely surprised to hear that yet another model has come forward with allegations of abuse from beloved celebrity photographer/ fashion institution, Terry Richardson. (TW: Terry Richardson) I’ve lost count of the number of models who have said that Terry has sexually harassed them and acted inappropriately towards them. He is a known predator who shows no sign of stopping his ways, this all on top of a photography “style” that relies on objectifying and degrading women. His treatment of female models isn’t exactly new, and there have been plenty of calls for him to be stopped before. We can sign a million change.org petitions, but Terry Richardson just won’t fucking die.
Here’s the problem: normal people like us just don’t hire big name fashion photographers. We don’t have magazines to publish, ads to sell, or movies/singles to promote. We simply aren’t the ones who keep him in business. So, I propose instead of just making a fuss online, we put our money where our mouse is. Terry does a spread in your magazine, we’re not gonna buy it. Terry shoots your ad campaign, we’re not gonna buy it. Terry directs your music video, we’re not gonna watch it. I call for a boycott of anyone who hires Terry Richardson. From now on, you hire him, we stop spending money on you.
This is gonna be hard, considering that a lot of our favorites out there work with Terry, including the queen Beyoncé. We’re gonna have to skip issues of our favorite mags, miss out on concerts, turn off our favorite TV shows, and ignore things we would otherwise really, really, really want to take part of, all because someone involved agreed to work with Terry. But this is the only way we the low-level consumers can stand up to this monster.
Spread the word. Send letters, emails, tweets, write it on the fucking sidewalk with chalk, #NoMoreTerry. http://nomoreterry.tumblr.com/In the past month, Terry Richardson has worked with:
Kate Moss in Lui Magazine, France (website) Email: (Karine Epelde-Marilliet, Director of Digital Publicity email@example.com)
Vogue Paris (Twitter) (Facebook) email: (Jennifer Nyet, editor-in-chief: firstname.lastname@example.org) (Kate Matthams-Spencer, English Publishing Editor: email@example.com) (Julien Blanc, Communications Editor: firstname.lastname@example.org)
Publications that regularly hire Terry Richardson are:
Vogue (Contact) (Cancel Subscription) (Twitter) (Facebook) email: (Susan Plageman, Vice-President/Publisher: email@example.com) (Susan Cappa, Executive Director, International Fashion & Business Development: firstname.lastname@example.org) (Jamie Tilson Ross, American Fashion Director: email@example.com)
Celebs that regularly work with Terry Richardson are:
Send these companies and people a message. Email them, Tweet them, write on their Facebook pages, we won’t buy their support of a sexual predator.
The rape revelations? Yes. Since I’m not involved with that fandom/social circle/whatever in any way (and I’ve literally never heard of either of them outside of this situation) I don’t feel qualified to comment other than to say that no matter what, in any and all situations, I will believe and stand by the accusers and never the accused.